Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Being Ugly Matters....

Hi everyone...

Thanks to all that left me some love on the my exciting news yesterday!! I truly appreciate it!!!


I recently got some new Webster's Pages papers from BlueMoonScrapbooking.com and the topic of bullying has been weighing on my mind A LOT lately... too many kids are taking their lives because of being bullied... and it compelled me to make this layout about ME as a little kid/teenager.....



My journaling is tucked into the circle and it reads:

"Growing up is never easy.  There’s awkward growth spurts, acne, bad hair days etc. But growing up ugly seems to be harder, at least for me it was. I had glasses at 4 years old, along with a lazy eye that I got to wear an oh-so-attractive eye patch, I was taller than EVERYONE in my class, I was pigeon toed, greasy hair, crooked teeth girl.  And I was UGLY. And people knew it. Not my family. They always made me feel special and important and beautiful. But as a kid, who listens to that? 

And I was bullied. But back then, they didn’t call it bullying. They just said there were mean, ugly people in the world. And oh did those mean, ugly people find me. 

I remember the four-eyed comments, the comments about my height, I was socially unacceptable. I was picked on, poked at and really didn’t have a lot of friends. Oh and to top it all off, I was really smart and had amazing grades. Not a good combo.

There was a girl named Julie Ruiz (pronounced REESE) when I was growing up that HATED me. Why? Because people kept confusing her name with the UGLY girl Julie REEVES ( me!). She was pretty and popular, and how DARE people confuse the two of us.  I remember her chasing me home one day, as she was gonna teach me a lesson for having a name that sounded like hers. I guess I should have known better than to let our Fathers have those last names. Shame on me. 

There were other occurrences.  Being the smart kid and being ugly on top of it is never easy. But I survived it. I won’t say I am stronger for it. But I will say I survived it.  

But I have to remember something. That was then. This is now. Now I know my family was right, and I am beautiful in my own way. I may not be the skinniest, or the prettiest, or even the smartest anymore. But I know that there are people in my life who love me for me. I have kids that I am teaching to be nice to others, no matter what they look like. 

And the one thing I will always remember. Avoid those mean, ugly people. There are so many beautiful people in the world, I don’t need the mean, ugly ones."



 



And to go along with my exciting news yesterday...I wanted to share pics of our new house!!!!
SO EXCITED!!

The dining room

Brookie's room!

Adam's room!

The living room!

Family room/Great room --- aka my scrappy space!


Kitchen!

Kitchen!

Master Bedroom!

Master bathroom (yes! That's me in the mirror!)

Backyard! (and for those wondering....there is NO grass... that is ALL rock in the backyard... long story short... "desert landscaping" is popular in Arizona, it's cheaper than watering/maintaining grass)

2nd bathroom!


Thanks so much for stopping by! I appreciate it! :)

72 comments:

  1. very nice LOs and loads of elements to see and feast my eyes. On top of that, your new house is just fab Julie...hope you guys will be happy decorating the new house and hugs.

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  2. You are such a beautiful person, Julie! You're trademark smile is just one piece of proof of what a ray of sunshine you are to so many people! Thank you for sharing your story and Congrats on your new home!

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  3. What a beautiful layout. Kids can be so mean and I am so happy that you rose above it to become such a beautiful person. Congrats again on your beautiful house!

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  4. What a therapeutic layout to do...it breaks my heart when i hear about bullies and mean people. I was always the tall skinny girl growing up, taller then all the boys and sensitive as can be.Would cry at the drop of the hat, and smart as can be. Didn't help me either but I did toughen up and use the brains to graduate one and a half years sooner then my classmates.
    You are a beautiful person, and believe it or not, it did make you stronger.
    Congrats again on the house, i am so happy for your family.
    Hugs

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  5. Hey Julie,
    Do you know something that I've realised over the years? Being slightly different and not fitting in with the 'in' crowd may not be great at the time but I believe it moulds you in to a better and nicer person. I was always picked on all the way through school. I've always been very small and now seeing Hollie grow up. The little one with glasses who didn't follow the crowd. But she's a nicer person for it. The ones that are popular and go to every party have no idea what it's like to be excluded. I saw this once when Hollie was handing out her 10th birthday party invites. We could only have a certain amount so she handed them out privately so not to hurt the others feelings but then a couple of friends were talking about the party infront of those that weren't invited and she felt so awful and couldn't understand why they would do that. I mentioned this to a friend and she said it was because she knew how it felt not to be included. I see that now in her. She's very aware of other people's feelings and I think that's a great quality to have.
    Look how kind, considerate and loving you are for example. I doubt there's one person that knows you that could say a bad word about you.
    And also..I do believe in ''what goes around, comes around'.
    A lovely LO Julie xxx

    ps...I'm so excited about your new home. It's so beautifully finished. Your homes in the US seem to be like that. Vey spacious too. OMG that kitchen!!!! :)

    Lots of love xxx

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  6. Girl i am with you there, i had parents who would spend there money on computers etc rather thank clothes for us, we kids were always dressed like tramps with the cheapest clothes money could buy, i know this does happen but it made me so mad as they had the money they just chose to give us nothing. I was never in any cool groups at school because of this and was just laughed at or made fun of, i guess this is why Lucy never leaves the house in a mess, i just never want her to feel the shame i did, she will have everything i never had. Love your new house girl :)

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  7. For the record, you were and ARE beautiful!!! I so wish you could see what I see!!! If I had known you back then, we would have been great friends and I would have had my very angry mother kick some bully ass!!! But your brief anguish served you and everyone you touch. I'm so glad you are who you are and I'm so glad that I get to know you!!! I really wish that you and young, sweet, innocent Julie could sit down and have a talk. I bet the two of you would have an AWESOME conversation!!! Congrats on the new house and the layout is A-MA-ZING!!!!

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  8. Gosh...it must have been hard for you as a kid to be bullied like that. Cheers to having survived it all. You are awesome! :)
    Thanks for sharing your story. Love you girl!

    Oooh...your new place looks amazing! Can't wait to see how you decorate!
    Bet you already almost finished packing the non-essentials right? Superhuman!!!

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  9. Beautiful, gorgeous, amazing house....LOVE that scrappy space...betcha can't wait to fill it up!!!!
    Talking of ugly. I'm right up there with you: glasses from 12 months old. Eyes that still wander all over the show. Lopsided face from operation re: eyes...they cut muscles! Small, skinny, no boobs, big crooked teeth [still got 'em] & yeah, one of the smart [they'd call it geeky these days] kids. I'm convinced i loved reading so much because it was a world I could immerse myself in & it was kinder than the world I lived in:):) But, yeah....I actually don't care. I like me!! Sounds like you like you, too & that's great:):):):)

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  10. I'm sorry you had to go through this as a child!
    Kids are so mean and I was made fun of too! I was tall and skinny and people called me toothpick. I didnt let it bother me to much just because for me I came from a very verbal abusive home or left in home by oursleves until late at night when we lived with my mom and I was scared to death! School was my escape even though sometimes I was made fun of.
    Love your house it is so pretty! Can't wait to see how your decorate your scrap room!!

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  11. Kids can be so cruel. It makes me mad to think you got treated like that. YOur layout is beautiful and touching! and a HUGE CONGRATS on your new home - it looks awesome and what a huge scrapspace you will have! Yeayyy!

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  12. What a very brave and touching layout Julie! Love your new house, hope the move goes smoothly for you xox

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  13. Wowee - wonderful house and I so appreciate your LO and journalling. I was in a similar position at school and now DD comes home asking why 'T' doesn't like her. Slightest set back and she says she can't do this or that and that she is useless.
    Sure is hard growing up.

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  14. Julie I can't even look at the house photos - I just want to cry! You are beautiful and tall and slim and I have never thought of you as ugly in any sense of the word - let alone your beautiful personality that shines through constantly!! I do hope you realise now how deluded those people were!! All those lovely photos of you - you look just too cute as a kid too!!

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  15. Huge & beautiful home!! Couldn't live with NO grass at all though...My inlaws live in Botswana - a country in Southern Africa - same story - desert - and she has areas with stones, pebbles, cacti, etc...Attractive but so different to what we have here which is crazy, uncontrollable tropical lushness!!

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  16. Julie... we do have similarity..I was an ugly kid too...only boys befriended ME.... girls stayed away and bullied me too...Oh well... Just like you I've survived...and those ugly past...made me the person I am today!!! And you my friend... are such a beautiful person in and out... I love your sweet smile... and sincerity... thats the JULIE I heart!!!...{love you} Your layout is STUNNING...love the story behing this!!! Big Congrats on your new home!..Its beautiful!!!! You well-deserved... Hugs hugs...xoxo

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  17. Your new house looks gorgeous!!! (I think my husband would like the idea of a rock backyard - no mowing!!! lol)
    I love your layout - from the heart and on a subject that I think most people can relate to.
    You are certainly beautiful and one of the nicest people I've ever known!!!

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  18. love the LO~and no way were you ugly~kids can be mean:( ~so happy about the new house!!! I bet you are giddy:):):)

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  19. Beautiful LO Julie but more beautiful is the woman who made it. I was bullied through junior high and high school too and it really does something to your soul. Thank you for sharing your story.

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  20. Julie this lo is just fab! You were as cute as a button....why the kids couldn't see that I don't know. Yes, kids can be cruel...I think the thing to keep in mind is that we are all different and beautiful in our own way...so hard for a child to grasp that when there is bullying going on. The beauty of your past is that you are able to share something beautiful with your own children, and teach them how to be beautiful to other people along the way. Just look at you now...so pretty and so talented, so loving and so giving...fabulous qualities to share with your own beautiful family....hugs to you my sweet friend!
    Your new house looks fab...you must show us pics when you fill the rooms...it's nice to see personal touches.

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  21. Fabulous page. Love the title. I need to show this to my teenage students. :)
    Fab pics of the new house too.

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  22. Such an important blogpost Julie. I wish all the kids could read it... And YAY for new houses. YOU as well as the HOUSE are BEAUTIFUL!!!

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  23. I'm on my phone so it's hard to type everything I want to say. But just know that you are beautiful, inside and out. You are one of the sweetest most generous crafters I know. It is a pleasure to call you my friend.

    Beautiful work. I love all those pics. I think you look as cite as can be. Truly I do! You also have crazy mad talent. You rock. Your kids are lucky to have a mom as understanding and compassionate as you.

    Love your new house! Congrats.

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  24. I ♥ U. amazing journaling. great LO. can just imagine how much it'll mean to the kiddos as they get older.

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  25. What a wonderful page. I was picked as a kid also.. No Fun. I think you are beautiful inside and out.

    Your house looks fabulous. I LOVE that kitchen.. So big and spacious.

    Hugs~

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  26. What an inspiring layout! love it..so honest and touching!

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  27. What an amazing page. It should be required reading for everyone. How incredible of you to tell your story. If I ever meet Julie Ruiz, I am probably going to kick her in the shins. I hope she realizes now how awful she was and that she missed out on having a wonderful friend in you.

    I love the house pictures! So excited for you!

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  28. yep there have always been mean kids!
    when i was in 8th grade this one boy would always (very loudly) tell me i was a carpenters dream: flat as a board and never been nailed!! ok now it is sorta funny but back then, boy did i cry!! and of course the 4 eyes was there starting 4th grade due to glasses.
    your layout is so inspiring and beautiful :)
    LOVE your new home!! and you must show photos of your craft area :)
    desert landscaping is one of the things i miss most about my home state nevada.
    hugs girlfriend :)

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  29. I LOVE LOVE LOVE your layout!!! esp the journaling!! it's sooo true and kids are sooo mean, you never forget the words or the names of the mean kids!!! I LOVE that you scrapped this!!!
    congrats on your new home it's gorgeous!!!!

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  30. congrats on the new house, boss! :) love all those photos.

    and yes, being ugly does matter. except, i think i might have thrown out all those bad photos when i was in jr high. lol. ;)

    hugs,
    sarah.

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  31. congrats on the house! lovely and so clean and new.

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  32. I love your page and I'm so moved by your words and it just makes me mad to hear about the bullying you suffered Sweet Julie!

    xxx

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  33. Your story breaks my heart, and you're right. It wasn't really called bullying exactly back then. I was always one of those who floated in the middle, so I made a point of befriending people of all kinds and I had a soft spot for those who others categorized as not fitting in.

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  34. You were NOT ugly. The fact that you thought you were is sad...that journaling breaks my heart. :-(

    On a better note... your new home looks FABULOUS!!! So happy for you. Congrats again!

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  35. Beautiful layout for a difficult topic! I so identified with your post. Great grades, glasses, short and fat, sickly the list goes on and on and so it seemed did the bullies. You are wonderful for tackling this one with such candor.

    The house is fantastic. Look at that kitchen! Enjoy

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  36. I ♥ ya my soul sista...what a wonderful heartfelt layout. Kids can be thee worst, eh? I was bullied as a grade schooler...girl made me give her my lunch money...grrr...In high school I felt like I wasn't taken too seriously because of my petiteness and actually I still feel that way...oh well, what am I going to do? I am who I am...

    You are thee bestest:)

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  37. Your new home is gorgeous!! So happy for you guys!! And I want to hug you after reading about your page. so ... HUG! Kids can be awful. Adults can be awful. But we know who the really "beautiful" people are and know to surround ourselves with those people in our corner when it really matters. xo

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  38. BEAUTIFUL new home! that was a powerful post thanks! :)

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  39. Your new house looks amazing! Lots of space and lots of natural lighting, all wonderful stuff in my book!
    Your layout hit a chord for me because I took was an ugly duckling growing up. I was always so in awe of the "cute" girls...and couldn't fathom how people with good self esteem were able to feel that way about themselves. Pretty people were like a different species to me! The best thing that happened in my life was that I grew up and left that all behind. It's wonderful what braces and contact lenses can do ...LOL! But the biggest change was in knowing that beauty is only on the outside, and it is fleeting. Now, at age 60 I can give those popular girls a run for their money and possibly win!!
    Thanks for sharing this layout and the journaling!

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  40. What a fabulous page - always good when you can scrap a difficult part of your life - and congrats on your new beautiful home!

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  41. Regardless of what was said to you in the the past (children can really be awful), you are a beautiful inside and out. And I'm not just saying that, I truly mean it. You always have cheery words and kind comments for everyone and you inspire us daily with your creativity :)

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  42. I can't believe people were so mean to you - you're one of the sweetest people I've ever met on line.

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  43. Awwww :( Kids CAN be mean....they don;t realize how badly words can hurt I guess. I can relate too.....glasses my entire life (four eyed freak!!) and fat to boot......yeah I was so loved.....lol. I still hear the chants "Fatty fatty two by four cant fit thru the bathroom door" And then I hit puberty wayyyyyyyyyy early and had bigger boobs than my 4rth grade teacher.....lol. Anywayyyyyyyys I have missed visiting your blog and seeing your awesome creations and reading your stories!!! And you moved AGAIN????? I'm jealous!!!! TAKE MEEEEEEE!!! I might can fit thru the bathroom door now.....lol

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  44. That was a powerful piece that you made and the journaling broke my heart at times!!

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  45. This is such an important layout in so many ways. Makes me sad and angry and also frustrated that kids (and grown ups also, seen plenty of that too!) can be so mean. Grrrr!!! I'm happy you got through it and that you scrapped about it. And know you are beautiful!!! ♥♥♥
    And WOW for your new home!!!! What a fantastic place!!!!

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  46. This is such a beautiful layout - especially the message. Being kind shouldn't be hard, but some kids feel they have to pull people down to bring themselves up. Thank you for sharing this.

    Your new house looks great and spacious.

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  47. Sorry to hear that you have to go thru a rough patch when you are young. Well I always get teased for being big. So I do understand where you are coming from but hey, look at you now, you are one beautiful woman inside out! Love that new house... wow!!

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  48. Sorry to hear that you were bullied as a kid. It is something thats been around forever and it's sad that kids have to go thru that. I remember going thru some of that to..no fun and kudos to you that you got past those years. No kid should have to go thru that!!!

    Your house is beautiful and how fun! I love the brightness of it all-I bet you can't wait to start decorating! Congrats!
    Where are you in Arizona?
    Sherrie K
    http://sherriescraps.blogspot.com

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  49. Oh Julieeeee that was such a sad story! The best part of being an adult now is knowing that what you see on the outside has nothing to do with what is on the inside. Bullying is terrible, and has gotten so out of control in this day and age.

    Moving on to something happier ~ your house!!!! Love it! Looks so sunny and cheerful. Congrats again :))

    Paula
    lifeasweknowitbypaula.blogspot.com

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  50. I think you looked pretty darn cute with those glasses!! :) Thanks for sharing your story on this beautiful page! Most of us probably went through similar moments, but you turned out to be one amazing Lady!! :)

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  51. Beautiful and touching layout Julie. People tend to forget that what we find on the inside of a person is far more important then the outside. You are truly a beautiful person inside and out! Congrats on the new home!!! I'm so excited for you and your family!! It' looks gorgeous!!!

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  52. Julie it saddens me that you grew up not believing you were beautiful..I felt much the same way until much older in life...and aging is affecting my self esteem again...but you are truly one of the most beautiful people I know, inside and out..you RADIATE beauty and I am honored to know you!!

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  53. Julie, I'm so touched by your words, I know how it feels, I've been there too. But as bad as what you said, even among relatives and my mom and their friends, I was known as the "ugly but intelligent" girl and that was totally bad for me, it is even today after decades...

    I'm super happy about your new place, it's a GORGEOUS house, my friend! Congrats :) :) :)

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  54. exciting!! God how I wish for hardwood floors!!!

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  55. Julie, your layout is awesome! And those pictures are great...I have to agree with your parents on this one...you definitely weren't ugly! You weren't gorgeous, but that's quite rare anyway isn't it? And we all know true beauty is on the inside, and girl you ARE gorgeous on the inside! That little girl in the pictures has the most beautiful smile and you looked so happy! You must have had some pretty amazing parents!
    Bullying is definitely tough and it's so good that you made this layout to talk about it. I was bullied by a boy in school all throughout elementary and high school and he lived across the street from me so it was constant...funny thing is, that now he's still an idiot! Some things never change! lol

    oh, and I'm sooooo jealous of your new kitchen!!!!!! LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE IT!!! Have fun getting all moved in!!! And remember, You're beautiful Julie!

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  56. Beautiful layout girl...love the story.

    And..I feel so bad that I'm out of touch...a house??? Where Where Where...I must go back & read... I didn't miss that announcement did i?

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  57. love the layout - it's so hard to be picked on. i can relate to some of your journaling.
    and your new house looks amazing! no more scrap closet for you!

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  58. Hey Julie,
    I love this Lo and I have to say you look adorable as a kid. I think you don't see that because of the bullying. But you see it wrong, you are still very very beautiful (in & outside) and the way I see it, you were always beautiful. Look at those sweet pictures of such an adorable kid. Don't put yourself down, I think kids were very jealous because you've had it all. Smart & Sweet & Beautiful!! You rock girl!
    Oooo your new house is so big, what a space you must love it!! And that kitchen, WOW!! I see the black American Freezer (as we call it over here, so huge!! (I am saving money for such a freezer/cooler. And that Bathrooms...
    You need to email me your new address...(hellokitty232323@hotmail.com).

    Love from The Netherlands,
    Leintje*

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  59. Your layout was amazing, unfortunatly i think most of us have been there! Cngrats on your house! Looks fabby!,

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  60. What an fabulous layout, Julie! Not only is it incredibly beautiful, but it's so wonderfully heartfelt, and raw, and real as to be a true masterpiece. Your story is incredibly important, and although painful, has shaped you into the tremendous person that you are today. You can be so proud of that, and the two incredible kiddos that you are raising. Hugs to you, and thanks so much for sharing!

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  61. What a loaded post! I was watching the news the other night, and they said that one in five kids is now being labeled a bully. What?! Can that be right?! I must echo what Audrey said above that you are an incredible woman, raising incredible kiddos, and you have so much to be thankful for. TFS!

    And the pictures of your new home are GORGEOUS! LOVE the hardwood floors, and it looks so spacious! Congratulations again! Hugs!

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  62. You were not ugly! It reminds me of all of those movies where they take the geekiest girls remove her glasses and all of a sudden she's a hottie! lol Like glasses are what makes people ugly?

    I was definitely bullied the entire time growing up, but unfortunately, there were a couple I bullied as well. I didn't get it then but do now? Most bully's are just letting their own insecurities out on those they bully! it sucks, and I am trying to teach my kids that its never ok to bully another person even if you yourself are picked on.

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  63. Beautiful layout with lots of precious details!
    I love your new house, especially the kitchen!

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  64. Kudos to you for putting that journaling out there! And to boot, it is one fantastic layout!
    While I will not ponder my childhood meanies at this time, I will say that you inspired me to embrace it and even put it down on paper. You rock!

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  65. Bless you on so many levels! Bless you for sharing your story, bless you for making such a touching layout and really putting a point that is in fact a REAL problem out there.

    I was picked on growing up because it wasn't until high school nearly my senior year before I started growing into my body! I was called horse face, monkey arms the list goes on. Kids are mean and that is how everyone brushed it off. So thank you for speaking on this!

    Your house is beautiful and this is exciting! :-)))

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  66. Oh Julie, the house looks awesome! Love the archway and the kitchen is to die for! Sorry to hear you were bullied as a child. Kids can be so cruel, and sometimes adults as well. You've turned it around and become a better person for it. I too hate to think of those kids who end their life because they don't have a better coping skill or support. I really would like to see the new documentary out there entitled "Bullied". Eyes need to be opened and something needs to be done!!!! I worry about my oldest granddaughter. She's a bit "quirky" by others standards. It's always something, huh! Hugs!

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  67. Julie, you are a beautiful woman - inside and out! I have proof because I always see your smiling face at my blog! ALWAYS!!!!! And you always say the nicest and most inspiring things, too. Congrats on your layout and on your new home! it looks so amazing, especially that KITCHEN! WOOHOO Julie!!!!!!!

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  68. Beautiful layout! It's awful how people have to put others down just to feel better about themselves.
    Love your new house! Hope you have fun decorating it! :)

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  69. A truly beautiful post & layout Julie. I didn't fit in at school, I was the tall, geeky girl with horrid hair & bad skin, I remember having a suitcase instead of a school bag & all sorts of other things which added to me sticking out like a sore thumb. My first few years at high school were truly miserable & mortifying. Now I think i had those experiences so I could give all my support & understanding to a son who went thru a difficult time with bed wetting into his teens.
    You are beautiful & compassionate & giving like many who've walked the tougher road xx

    PS congrats on your new home ... How exciting!! and it looks gorgeous!!

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  70. Hugs to you Julie... I think instead of all the taunting turning you into someone ugly, it turned you into a beautiful ray of sunshine, touching the lives of others with a kind word and a loving heart.

    Beautiful house photos and lovely layout!! {{hugs}}

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  71. Oh, yes. I remember the mean kids most of all (Janice Soderlund, I'm looking at you!) I had glasses starting in the 1st grade. Tess just bought herself a pair of *fake* glasses and loves wearing them...how times change!
    Your new place is beautiful! Hardwood floors!!! Jealous ;) Enjoy! :)

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